Why Gays and Guns Win
For the past month the media, unlike the actual public, has been obsessed with the issues of gay marriage and gun control. The issues have been portrayed as twin harbingers of a new more liberal age, a 1960′s redux, that has brought out all of the old battle lines. But this, in fact, is not true. These debates, and the inexorable success of gay marrige, and the equally certain failure of gun control legislation, are very much issues and outcomes of our current time. Though their discussion is happening at the same time, the two issues couldn’t be more different except for the one constant at the center of them both- the power and control of government.
It is not overstating the case to say that America is as polarized today as it has been since the Civil War, which was the blueprint for Richard Nixon’s “Southern Strategy” that still represents the Republican Party today. These lines have become hard baked over the last two decades by the lucrative squirting of media lighter fluid onto the bonfire of social and economic discontent. But the most common mistake that talking heads and the general public make is the constant complaint that “government is not working,” or that our representatives are not “doing their job.” On the contrary, they are working, and doing their jobs- which are not to pass legislation, but to represent their constituents- very well indeed. Extreme members represent extreme districts and states, and do so very well by polling and focus grouping the landscape on an hourly basis. And this is exactly why gays and guns are winning the day.
There are several reasons why opposition to gay marriage has eroded steadily over the last twenty years. First and most powerful, sadly, is the AIDS crisis. Before the AIDS epidemic, gays and lesbians were not that far from Stonewall. Towns had gay bars and major cities like New York and San Francisco had thriving gay communities, but at best there was a prevailing “live and let live” ethos. AIDS changed that. AIDS was a clarion call to “come out,” and over the decade of the 1990′s America realized that gays and lesbians were not “them,” but “us.” The result was that the generation of Sally Rides, who hid their lives and loves in order to be functioning participants in society and culture (functioning, that is, without the legal and tax benefits of marriage), gave way to a generation of gay and lesbian people in all walks of life holding hands and openly declaring their love for one another. Another powerful factor has been the increasingly powerful portrayal of gays and lesbians in the media that has helped inure a younger generation. Over the course of the last twenty years, America has come to know that gay and lesbian people are not just the clowns like the dimwit in picture above in the pink net dress, who clearly was not helping the debate, and “dykes on bikes” but everyone else in all walks of American life. Being gay became no big deal and even those like the man in the dress now fail to get all the attention they crave.
The acceptance of guns in our lives and culture have taken a very similar trajectory. Guns, like gays, have slowly overcome their negative, supercharged, media stereotypes. Though they are obviously not similar or analogous in any other way, the horrific tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School doesn’t represent gun owners in American any more than a morbidly obese man crawling on his hands and knees wearing nothing but a leather thong and a dog collar represents gay people. Your gay dentist and your neighbor with a handgun responsibly locked in a drawer are not news but they are really who we are.
But it’s really in their relationship to government and its power where these two issues intersect. Two decades ago, Will Portman would probably have not come out, to his family let alone the public, out of respect for his Republican father’s political career. But doing so made the government’s role in obstructing him from the legal benefits that all other Americans enjoy all the more obvious and onerous, to the senator and to everyone else who isn’t benighted by retarding religious dogma. Government restrictions on the American people’s rights to make their own choices is antithetical to the fabric of our nation. And so it also is with the right to own a gun.
None of the proposed gun restriction laws would really have much impact on gun violence in America. Background checks would remain easy to get around and would be impossible to enforce. Large ammunition clips are all over the nation and would remain easy to get. There will most certainly be another terrible episode where a mentally deranged person will kill others with an assault rifle. That just is, and will remain, part of American life. But as tragic as that will be, like assault weapon violence in general, it will represent an infinitesimal percentage of gun deaths, the vast majority of which come from handguns- which themselves don’t even approach the numbers of violent deaths caused by baseball bats, knives, crowbars and the like.
In a month or so, the memory of Sandy Hook Elementary School will pass from all those Americans who didn’t lose a loved one. The next Sandy Hook will create a momentary clamor to once again do something about gun violence, which will once again die down after a few months having initiated no new legislation. But while the Supreme Court will be loathe to decide on gay marriage, and will look for any opportunity to punt, nevertheless, state by state, statute by statute, restrictions to gay rights will fall away because at the end of the day, we Americans just don’t like the government- and worse, odious, self-important Napoleon complexers like New York mayor Michel Bloomberg- telling us what to do. We prefer it when corporate America does that.

From the beginning there was something wrong, something reptilian about Richard Nixon. His black eyes never revealed even a flicker of warmth, humor or anything resembling humanity. His blank, baleful stare was what you’d expect in a mugshot from someone who had calmly performed an unspeakably heinous act, which is in fact exactly what he did. It is to America’s everlasting shame, and the cause of everlasting damage, that so lowly and disgraceful a person as Nixon was ever admitted to our nation’s highest office. The most important lesson Richard Nixon left us, was not about him, it was about us. It is how so base and crass a person manipulated us all and how we allowed that to happen.
To really understand the full implications of the election of 2012, you need look no further than the desk of the info-tainment juggernaut “Fox News” and it’s reigning high priest, Bill O’Reilly. The folks at Fox, usually so canny at reading and manipulating the zeitgeist of their audience, was not only caught flat-footed, but thanks in part to nemesis Jon Stewart, their blinking confusion and bumbling denial of what was staring them in the face became a humiliating public spectacle. Fox, Karl Rove and Associates were caught by surprise because none of them noticed that over the last four years, the raft they filled daily with their own fetid hot air was drifting farther and farther from the shore of reality. The country out of their collective office windows, beyond the golf club bags, framed Ten Commandment tablets and Reagan busts has changed. Dramatically.
If you grew up in the 70′s, you’ll no doubt recognize this image from the hit movie Summer of ’42. The movie was about a young, lonely woman whose husband has been away in the military for several years. Being young and attractive, she is the fantasy object of the teenaged boys in her neighborhood, and any in the movie theater, and she ends up having a sexual relationship with a very lucky one of them. It is a charming and touching, coming-of-age romantic film that made a sex symbol out of its star, Jennifer O’Neil. It dramatized the experience many, if not most honest, young men desire, a first sexual experience with an older woman with whom they can learn in a more nurturing environment than with girls their own age, who after all, usually expect them to know what they are doing.
When the Republicans who are actually in a position to decide survey their options for a vice presidential candidate to aid their stunningly weak nominee, they face the most narrowed field in modern times. With the internal struggle between the Koch Brothers financial establishment, the hardcore “Earth is only 6,000 years old” Christian evangelicals, the Likud Israelis, the Tea Party, the Bush years, and the unprecedented Palin fiasco, all of the traditional metrics are off the table. Like the food in a facility for seniors, their choice has to be devoid of anything resembling flavor or spice or even salt. They are left with only one possible choice, the lukewarm pile of tasteless and soulless grayish white mash known as former Minnesota governor Tim Pawlenty.
Imagine for a moment that you put your credit card down to finally buy the 52″ HD, big screen television you’ve wanted for years. And then the clerk hands you a public disclosure form to announce your purchase to the world- and to the fellas who will be looking for a place to watch the game as well as the local meth heads searching for a quick score. Or, imagine the same thing happening when you purchased a vibrator to go with Fifty Shades of Grey? Wink, wink from the UPS guy. It’s an outrageous idea that almost no American citizen would find even remotely acceptable. We like to think that we have a certain level of privacy in this country and that, as long as we follow the law, where we spend our money is our business and our business alone. The same thing goes for our vote. You might work in a union shop but be a Republican who would certainly be shunned if your workmates knew how you voted. Or you might be a closeted gay Republican who will pull the lever for Obama this Fall. No one would get very far making the case that our purchase or our votes should be public.
Yet, in the wake of the Supreme Court’s Citizens United case, there has been a great hue and cry made about political contributions made without public disclosure and the clarion call from the “progressives” is that “we have a right to know” who makes contributions. But do we really? And why exactly would that be? Why should anyone have a “right” to know how anyone else legally spends their money, from big screen televisions to vibrators to political contributions? (With “anyone” meaning actual people. Corporations have their own business decisions to make and are, at least in theory, responsible to their share holders.) We have a right to know, progressives argue, because of the power that those contributions wield in our process- and this is the great weakness in the progressive argument because the real problem for them is not the money, or the ads. The reason progressives cry foul is that they don’t like the election results. You don’t hear a peep of complaint from the conservatives because ever since Richard Nixon hired Roger Ailes in 1968, who is now the head of Fox News, the right wing has been much better at exploiting the public who lack the sophistication and education to understand politics. Just look at what goes into most American mouths, let alone into their vote. And that is a very, very different problem. From the “Silent Majority” to “Morning in America” to the Swift Boat ads, the conservatives have written the book on conning the rubes while progressives can only stand in a puddle of themselves and whine about the lack of “fairness.” Newsflash: Life ain’t fair. There ain’t no “social justice.” Get over it.
There are two kinds of courage. The first is a mindset, an approach to life and its challenges. We often hear of the courage of those who, day in and day out, have to fight to overcome illness or physical disabilities. We have courageous teachers who go to work every day knowing full well only a small fraction of their students will go on to academic success. But they persevere. Then there is that second variety, when a person is suddenly faced with a defining moment that tests their integrity and defines their lives- the soldier who gets out of the line of fire but goes back to retrieve a wounded comrade or the marchers who crossed the Edmund Pettis Bridge and refused to yield in face of teargas and billy clubs. These people are models for the rest of us- particularly those who did what was right when the stakes where the highest- and they are the example from which national identities are built.
From the outset, Colin Powell knew that invading Iraq was a disastrous idea. Unlike Dick Cheney, who did everything he could to avoid actually serving in the armed forces, Powell had built a stellar career in the military. Powell was also quite aware that because of his stature with the American people, his appointment as Secretary of State was a political boon for George W. Bush who was widely perceived as a lightweight in general and in foreign policy in particular. Bush was a man who knew nothing of the world and had never traveled outside of the borders of his home country. Powell knew full well that his appointment gave the American people comfort. He was going to be an adult in the room.
It’s surprising that it took this long for the classic 1960′s series Dark Shadows to take it’s turn getting the retro-update treatment. The series has everything you could ask for, 60′s camp, iconic characters and even classic theme music. It’s a prime property to pick the pockets of middle-aged folk who almost all look back with nostalgic fondness for that simpler time and who can be counted on to pony up for a few hours of reliving it. This lucrative demographic is what has fueled a literal avalanche of remakes of iconic material from the 60′s and 70′s. The sad part generally, and with this latest Dark Shadows version in particular, is that these remakes are terrible and do nothing but remind us all not only of how interesting the originals were, but how dismal and imagination-free the current generation of entertainers are. And worst of all, how shamelessly egotistical they are. And no one is more guilty than Johnny Depp.
Yesterday with some free time in the afternoon, I thought I’d do something I hadn’t done in years, watch a baseball game. That is a baseball game that wasn’t a playoff or a World’s Series game, just an old school, Saturday afternoon baseball game. I remembered that every year as I watch the end of the season I promise myself I will get into the game the following Spring, so I decided to make good on that promise to myself- but was surprised to find that there wasn’t a game on. I trolled the network channels that used to always have games on, but there was nothing. So, I did a search and found that there were actually several games on, but they were only available if you ponied up hundreds of dollars for a premium dish channel. So much for that idea.